Reading back over this blog, I realised I have never shared our journey into creating a school culture based on 'understanding.' After listening to the radio segment yesterday and sharing it on my facebook page, I thought it was fitting to do a bit of a post, like many of my posts, it isn't short, but hopefully it may spark some thought, or at least give some affirmation to those on a similar journey.
Background...
Like all of our journeys, it all started with play. At the time when we started to plant the seeds of our future school culture, I really didn't realise how significant our play pedagogy would be, but as it turns out, like just about everything else we do, it ultimately it all does come back to play and understanding the brain.
We had already worked hard on being developmentally aware, changing this lens to developmentally sensitive and responsive. We understood the difference of 'chronological age' and 'actual age', understood how play was crucial for children's development and were primed and ready for more learning about this.
Around 2018 we embarked on some learning about attachment. Understanding attachment styles was a really useful start for us and helped to build our understandings about children. As a school we also developed our understandings of restorative practice and saw this as a great approach for us. We were also part of relationship based learning, or RBL as it was known then.
Over the next several years, we were inspired by the work of Bruce Perry and did some 'bite sized' staff driven PLD around trauma, starting with a book study and building our own understandings.
A copy of some of the videos we watched are included in this document that guided our learning.
Over this time we also attended workshops run by Kathryn Berkett and worked with Karina Schreurs at Aro Training, here in Whangārei.Key Learning Takeaways from Kathryn, Karina, Bruce and Ross
Understanding what is meant by read brain and green brain (watch this if you don't know what this is referring to)
This is also a great podcast to listen to, this is episode one on the stress response.
We need to aim for attunement rather than attachment. These children need to work with a trusted adult, going out with a person, who has no relationship is not going to help them. Therefore it is us that need to work hard on those relationships. This is a collective US, meaning whole school. Teachers, TA, Office staff, caretaker...everyone.
Attuned relationship, children need an attuned adult. A child needs at least four adults that are attuned to them and their needs. This makes it bigger than the teacher.
Sprinters - go from green brain to their red brain at the drop of a hat, is emotionally under six. Intermediate classes possible have children that are emotionally 2, 3, 4.
Marathon runners, will hold onto 'big feelings' and stay in their red brain for extended periods of time.
Status, when a child is in their red brain, they will try to drop your status, this could be saying something silly, mocking, this is an attempt to grow their status, if you drop your status, it will lower this stress response. If we react and become dysregulated ourselves based on this communication we will only serve to heighten their response.
Keeping survival brain calm. Some boys hate mullets - see me, acknowledge me, belonging, show me how I belong, where do I seem myself here, happening, tell me what is happening, warn me, don't suddenly surprise me, mana, let me have a say, activate my voice. We can keep the survival brain calm in a classroom if we do these things. The brain is aiming for safety, always asking "am I safe" if we use these key ideas, we can make our classroom a safe place for all children.
Build in moments of tolerable stress, where it is possible to become excited, but them self-calm. We do this with little children, when we play games like hide and seek. We do this with babies, where we play peek-a-boo. Teaching all children to self-calm in these situations. Play is the most important way for children to learn this and become emotionally resilient. In play children will be in tolerable stress all of the time where they are trying to navigate this world. Children know what they need to do and don't need to be directed in their play.
Devices can cause a heightened stress response, devices do not calm them, devices train the red brain.
Encouraging them to do something that will calm their red brain, must not be seen as a reward. Punishing the red brain, will do nothing to prevent it happening it again. Allowing them to choose an activity that will calm them, allows us to then engage with their 'green' or regulated brain afterwards. The work we do in building a new template, needs to happen with the green brain.
We must consider how we interact with children who are dysregulated, we need to teach every child what works for them to find their calm. It is all about building new templates for regulation strategies.
The first three years build the foundations of the brain, it is possible to rebuild this and at school this needs to be part of our core work. If you do not have a strong foundation a programme is not going to assist the children without strong foundation, this needs to be rebuilt. Music, dance, play, touch, movement are all great ways to do this. Many of our youngest children need us to go back and think about how we would have helped our babies, rocking, touch, serve and return.
Children who are lacking strong foundations, are trauma impacted and stressed are emotionally six or less. This is the most important work we can do. Learning can not happen in the red brain, if we want our learning approaches to work, we must meet these needs first. First see me, understand me, then teach me,
It is possible to rewire the foundation that has been built in the first three years, time repetition and calm, it is possible to teach these children to calm.
Our brain forms connections, the more repetitions, the stronger the connection, allowing the brain to form templates for everything that it sees, hears, feels. This happens in the first three years, this is how they see the world. A child that starts school swearing, actually knows no different. Asking them not to, is not going to work. We then actually need to work on building new templates. The old template never goes away. When they are in green brain, they will use the template we have helped them to build. When they are in red brain, the old template kicks in, this is when we see the old 'behaviour.' When we don't feel safe, our old template activates
We build new templates through attuned relationships, repetition, repetition, repetition. It takes time, calm, understanding and acceptance.
Children also have a self-belief template, such as saying things like "I am mean." Repeating when they are in their green brain "that action was mean, but you are not mean". This takes repetition, patience and calm.
We are not capable of thinking in our red brain, punishments do not work. A reward based economy will only work for children that feel safe and have strong foundations.
Red brain is oppositional, selfish, aggressive, negative. Our aim is for children to be able to activate calm quicker, but engaging with the red brain is never going to go well. Think fight, flight, freeze.
If we watch children and over time we see children staying in their red brain for shorter times, this is proof that we are helping them build a new template.
While in their green brain, we need to allow them to share with us what they like to do when they are moving into their red brain. Discuss it after when they are in their green brain. Think of places outside of the classroom, it could be climbing a tree, hiding in a hut, nature is a great way to activate the green brain. Teach children to recognise the signs that they are becoming dysregulated so that they can begin to use these strategies independently.
So, where are we at now?
Play
Whole Staff Knowledge
Te Kōhanga
SEL
Empowering Children
Wellbeing Teams
In parting...
To be developmentally sensitive and responsive, Neuroscience informed, should be the goal of all our schools.